Thursday, May 28, 2009
Just That Simple.
I Love Jillian...a lot. With all my heart in fact. I would give my life for her. And it really is just that simple.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Selfishness
No matter how much it vexes me to waste food, nothing perturbs me more than the economic construct we use every day. It seems to me that if I were an owner of a company, apart from being much happier spending more time with my wife, I would have certain aspects of my company work differently than most. Lets take a gander at some examples.
1. If it were a clothing company: the damaged goods that were either rendered in the process of making the clothing, and damaged goods received back from stores would go to the needy and the poor. Whether distributed by my own company or by a 3rd party that specializes in getting things to the needy wouldn't matter to me.
2. If it were a food company (I'm thinking more like the ones in malls): I would keep track of the numbers, and setup a general average of how much to make of certain items throughout the day; so when it got close to the end of the day, we wouldn't have so much waste. However, this is the part that bothers me. I accidentally got a worker in trouble today because I asked for some of the pretzels that Pretzel Time were throwing away. I was informed that they could not do that (even though I'd been given pretzels many times before) and that the employee who had been giving out pretzels at the end of the day would be written up. That any employee who gave out pretzels would be charged $50 per pretzels. Does this only seem ridiculous to me? Firstly, they shouldn't have that much to throw out if they keep track of numbers correctly. Secondly, I'm sure the dough for those pretzels cost no where near $50. Thirdly, (And my biggest disagreement) How can a company be so selfish, as to rather THROW AWAY food, then give it away. Either way, they get no money for it. I would give it away.
The world in all its greed and selfishness would rather throw away a product than give it away. Congratulations Pretzel Time, you're the kid in the cafeteria who throws away his extra pizza that he didn't have room for instead of giving it to his friend (who would gladly eat it). Because we are indeed your friends. We buy your Pretzels, we fund your employee's salaries, and most importantly, we keep you in business.
I understand that this could cause problems. Dishonest employees making more then needed to hookup friends and family would most definitely occur. This would fall under the other list of items that companies have problems with anyways: Theft. But that's a topic for another day.
Sadly, though I condone it on a large scale, I fall subject to the vice of selfishness all too often. My parents raised me well. Taught to take care of others before myself. To want not. To share what I had with those in need. They taught me, in a word, selflessness. Yet to this day I take care of my needs first. I desire the luxuries of the world. I keep to myself, when I should give. I am, in a word, selfish.
My wife on the other hand is the exact opposite. It's a good thing she loves me enough to put up with me while I work to become more like her, and like Christ.
1. If it were a clothing company: the damaged goods that were either rendered in the process of making the clothing, and damaged goods received back from stores would go to the needy and the poor. Whether distributed by my own company or by a 3rd party that specializes in getting things to the needy wouldn't matter to me.
2. If it were a food company (I'm thinking more like the ones in malls): I would keep track of the numbers, and setup a general average of how much to make of certain items throughout the day; so when it got close to the end of the day, we wouldn't have so much waste. However, this is the part that bothers me. I accidentally got a worker in trouble today because I asked for some of the pretzels that Pretzel Time were throwing away. I was informed that they could not do that (even though I'd been given pretzels many times before) and that the employee who had been giving out pretzels at the end of the day would be written up. That any employee who gave out pretzels would be charged $50 per pretzels. Does this only seem ridiculous to me? Firstly, they shouldn't have that much to throw out if they keep track of numbers correctly. Secondly, I'm sure the dough for those pretzels cost no where near $50. Thirdly, (And my biggest disagreement) How can a company be so selfish, as to rather THROW AWAY food, then give it away. Either way, they get no money for it. I would give it away.
The world in all its greed and selfishness would rather throw away a product than give it away. Congratulations Pretzel Time, you're the kid in the cafeteria who throws away his extra pizza that he didn't have room for instead of giving it to his friend (who would gladly eat it). Because we are indeed your friends. We buy your Pretzels, we fund your employee's salaries, and most importantly, we keep you in business.
I understand that this could cause problems. Dishonest employees making more then needed to hookup friends and family would most definitely occur. This would fall under the other list of items that companies have problems with anyways: Theft. But that's a topic for another day.
Sadly, though I condone it on a large scale, I fall subject to the vice of selfishness all too often. My parents raised me well. Taught to take care of others before myself. To want not. To share what I had with those in need. They taught me, in a word, selflessness. Yet to this day I take care of my needs first. I desire the luxuries of the world. I keep to myself, when I should give. I am, in a word, selfish.
My wife on the other hand is the exact opposite. It's a good thing she loves me enough to put up with me while I work to become more like her, and like Christ.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
But Be, As You Have Been, My Happiness...
Bob Newhart once said: "Laughter gives us distance. It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on." How true it is. Unfortunately, for my lovely wife, I have a hard time laughing in instances where I should. Instead, I get angry, argumentative, and have to win the battle of the ego's. This troublesome habit is what broke us up when we were dating, and though we overcame it then, it seems to have come back to once again smite me with discontentment.
I know learning to live with someone is difficult. I did it for 2 years on the mission. But it seems to me it's still just a matter of communication. Whether it's doing things differently or pet peeves that need to be found, any of these, as I see it, can be solved by talking, and then demonstrating the desire to change.
Yet again, this is where my stupid ego-driven self comes in. Whenever something happens, I get so locked in the idea, that I am right, and she needs to see WHY I'm right...that I don't stop, sit back, laugh, and then work through it. No, instead I seem to be a master at peaking arguments and leaving each other angry until we both come back and work it out. Yes, problems get solved, but what I don't like is being angry at someone--especially my wife. We sit away from each other or sit close but don't talk, just do something else...until we both calm down enough to approach the matter more sensibly. I HATE the time we waste while we're angry. Time we get to spend with each other right now is limited as it is, so to be arguing amidst that time seems to be trivial.
My wife is amazing. I couldn't have done better for myself. I guess this is just part of the troubleshooting phase. I just hope she continues to be the patient, understanding woman she is to me, until I can get over myself. I love you Jillian.
I know learning to live with someone is difficult. I did it for 2 years on the mission. But it seems to me it's still just a matter of communication. Whether it's doing things differently or pet peeves that need to be found, any of these, as I see it, can be solved by talking, and then demonstrating the desire to change.
Yet again, this is where my stupid ego-driven self comes in. Whenever something happens, I get so locked in the idea, that I am right, and she needs to see WHY I'm right...that I don't stop, sit back, laugh, and then work through it. No, instead I seem to be a master at peaking arguments and leaving each other angry until we both come back and work it out. Yes, problems get solved, but what I don't like is being angry at someone--especially my wife. We sit away from each other or sit close but don't talk, just do something else...until we both calm down enough to approach the matter more sensibly. I HATE the time we waste while we're angry. Time we get to spend with each other right now is limited as it is, so to be arguing amidst that time seems to be trivial.
My wife is amazing. I couldn't have done better for myself. I guess this is just part of the troubleshooting phase. I just hope she continues to be the patient, understanding woman she is to me, until I can get over myself. I love you Jillian.
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