Bob Newhart once said: "Laughter gives us distance. It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on." How true it is. Unfortunately, for my lovely wife, I have a hard time laughing in instances where I should. Instead, I get angry, argumentative, and have to win the battle of the ego's. This troublesome habit is what broke us up when we were dating, and though we overcame it then, it seems to have come back to once again smite me with discontentment.
I know learning to live with someone is difficult. I did it for 2 years on the mission. But it seems to me it's still just a matter of communication. Whether it's doing things differently or pet peeves that need to be found, any of these, as I see it, can be solved by talking, and then demonstrating the desire to change.
Yet again, this is where my stupid ego-driven self comes in. Whenever something happens, I get so locked in the idea, that I am right, and she needs to see WHY I'm right...that I don't stop, sit back, laugh, and then work through it. No, instead I seem to be a master at peaking arguments and leaving each other angry until we both come back and work it out. Yes, problems get solved, but what I don't like is being angry at someone--especially my wife. We sit away from each other or sit close but don't talk, just do something else...until we both calm down enough to approach the matter more sensibly. I HATE the time we waste while we're angry. Time we get to spend with each other right now is limited as it is, so to be arguing amidst that time seems to be trivial.
My wife is amazing. I couldn't have done better for myself. I guess this is just part of the troubleshooting phase. I just hope she continues to be the patient, understanding woman she is to me, until I can get over myself. I love you Jillian.
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